Dreamwork: Let's Talk About Sex!
Sex! Who doesn't like that topic, right? Sex in dreams can be common. It can be great and not so great in dreams. I mean, if we're dreaming of having sex with our favorite celebrity we don't even question it! It's great, it's awesome, and it's most likely a result of our subconscious processing the times we consciously look at them and feel attraction.
However, sex in dreams isn't always so awesome. Sometimes we may be having sex with an ex, a friend, or stranger. If we are in a relationship in the waking world and we have sex dreams about someone other than our partner we may feel weird, or like a cheater. We may even feel violated or confused. Perhaps we enjoyed the dream and feel guilty for that. Maybe we even dreamt that our significant other had sex with someone other than us and we wake up mad at our partner. Who hasn't been there? Am I right? I know a few husbands - including my own - on the receiving end of that anger.
Nine times out of ten a sex dream is never about sex. In fact a dream is rarely about anything outside of yourself. In the dreamscape the other person is an aspect of you. It could be a realized or denied aspect. Alternatively, it could be an aspect you wished you had. What your subconscious/higher self is telling you in the dream is that you need to look at integrating or accepting these aspects.
Sex, in waking life and in dreams, is about connection. What connection in waking life do you have with the person in the dream? If they are a close friend it could be that you admire them in some way and want to incorporate those traits into your personality. This does not necessarily mean any physical attraction in the waking world. Basically, how you view the person in reality can be a clue to the personality trait or aspect that needs to be integrated. Sometimes you may view that person - in cases of it being an ex - as something negative. Yes, you do need to integrate and accept those negative aspects of yourself along with the positive aspects. Your higher self/subconscious is showing that those qualities are part of you and that's okay. This goes for sex with strangers in dreams as well. This is about looking at hidden, unknown, and denied aspects which have no other representation except for that of a stranger.
In the case of dreaming that a partner has slept with someone else is a reflection of insecurities and lack of self-worth. You may have trust issues that need to be looked at, including issues in trusting yourself. Keeping in mind that everything in a dream is an aspect of you: the two people you see having sex in your dream are two different aspects that you are so far removed from that you can only see it as a third party perspective. You may be denying those sides, or don't fully understand them yet. You may have conflicting or contradicting feelings and beliefs in the waking world that your subconscious is working through. It may show you through a sexual dream how those two aspects that seem separate can actually be connected to each other and to yourself.
Sex dreams are also about processing past trauma. If you have been sexually abused or raped in any form the dreamscape may be a safe place for you to work through the trauma and start the healing process. These can be really scary dreams or nightmares. The fear and terror one can have in dreams like these are all very real emotions. Even if you have never been abused in the waking world yet have a dream of being raped it can feel awful and shake you for some time.
Dreams are a way for the subconscious to process or even "yell" to get us to look deeply into something we have been avoiding. This isn't being done to distress us, it's being done so we can heal. Shoving down a situation and forgetting it ever happened is not a way to deal with anything it will come to the surface and ask to be properly dealt with.
Dreaming of having sex outside of your preferred orientation in the waking world does not always point to underlying homo- or heterosexuality. These types of dreams are most likely about integrating a certain kind of energy. Having sex with the opposite sex, whether it's your preference or not, indicates the need to get in touch with your feminine or masculine sides, respectively. The same goes for dreams of having sex with the same sex. Sex in dreams doesn't reflect who you have attraction to in real life, it reflects the part(s) of yourself you need to pay more attention to. Those aspects, whether positive or negative qualities, deserve your attention and acceptance. Acceptance of the Self, fully and completely, is one healthy step on the road to integration and healing.
P.S. Sometimes dreams of sexual attraction, infidelity, and homo/heterosexuality can point to those things in the waking world. Though chances are if that's the case you will know them and will not require a dream dictionary to decipher those messages. Your waking self is already thinking, feeling, or doing those things. If you feel your intuition is telling you those things in dreams it's because you already suspect something in your waking world. This points to the same message of any sex dream: your subconscious is asking you to look at and accept these things in your life, to stop avoiding and denying them.
Brightest Blessings,
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However, sex in dreams isn't always so awesome. Sometimes we may be having sex with an ex, a friend, or stranger. If we are in a relationship in the waking world and we have sex dreams about someone other than our partner we may feel weird, or like a cheater. We may even feel violated or confused. Perhaps we enjoyed the dream and feel guilty for that. Maybe we even dreamt that our significant other had sex with someone other than us and we wake up mad at our partner. Who hasn't been there? Am I right? I know a few husbands - including my own - on the receiving end of that anger.
Nine times out of ten a sex dream is never about sex. In fact a dream is rarely about anything outside of yourself. In the dreamscape the other person is an aspect of you. It could be a realized or denied aspect. Alternatively, it could be an aspect you wished you had. What your subconscious/higher self is telling you in the dream is that you need to look at integrating or accepting these aspects.
Sex, in waking life and in dreams, is about connection. What connection in waking life do you have with the person in the dream? If they are a close friend it could be that you admire them in some way and want to incorporate those traits into your personality. This does not necessarily mean any physical attraction in the waking world. Basically, how you view the person in reality can be a clue to the personality trait or aspect that needs to be integrated. Sometimes you may view that person - in cases of it being an ex - as something negative. Yes, you do need to integrate and accept those negative aspects of yourself along with the positive aspects. Your higher self/subconscious is showing that those qualities are part of you and that's okay. This goes for sex with strangers in dreams as well. This is about looking at hidden, unknown, and denied aspects which have no other representation except for that of a stranger.
In the case of dreaming that a partner has slept with someone else is a reflection of insecurities and lack of self-worth. You may have trust issues that need to be looked at, including issues in trusting yourself. Keeping in mind that everything in a dream is an aspect of you: the two people you see having sex in your dream are two different aspects that you are so far removed from that you can only see it as a third party perspective. You may be denying those sides, or don't fully understand them yet. You may have conflicting or contradicting feelings and beliefs in the waking world that your subconscious is working through. It may show you through a sexual dream how those two aspects that seem separate can actually be connected to each other and to yourself.
Sex dreams are also about processing past trauma. If you have been sexually abused or raped in any form the dreamscape may be a safe place for you to work through the trauma and start the healing process. These can be really scary dreams or nightmares. The fear and terror one can have in dreams like these are all very real emotions. Even if you have never been abused in the waking world yet have a dream of being raped it can feel awful and shake you for some time.
Dreams are a way for the subconscious to process or even "yell" to get us to look deeply into something we have been avoiding. This isn't being done to distress us, it's being done so we can heal. Shoving down a situation and forgetting it ever happened is not a way to deal with anything it will come to the surface and ask to be properly dealt with.
Dreaming of having sex outside of your preferred orientation in the waking world does not always point to underlying homo- or heterosexuality. These types of dreams are most likely about integrating a certain kind of energy. Having sex with the opposite sex, whether it's your preference or not, indicates the need to get in touch with your feminine or masculine sides, respectively. The same goes for dreams of having sex with the same sex. Sex in dreams doesn't reflect who you have attraction to in real life, it reflects the part(s) of yourself you need to pay more attention to. Those aspects, whether positive or negative qualities, deserve your attention and acceptance. Acceptance of the Self, fully and completely, is one healthy step on the road to integration and healing.
P.S. Sometimes dreams of sexual attraction, infidelity, and homo/heterosexuality can point to those things in the waking world. Though chances are if that's the case you will know them and will not require a dream dictionary to decipher those messages. Your waking self is already thinking, feeling, or doing those things. If you feel your intuition is telling you those things in dreams it's because you already suspect something in your waking world. This points to the same message of any sex dream: your subconscious is asking you to look at and accept these things in your life, to stop avoiding and denying them.
Brightest Blessings,
Phoenix Rose
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FB - www.facebook.com/phoenixrosereadings
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